So I found this post
about Asperger's and how it presents differently in men and women, to be extremely thought-provoking, even though I'm not sure how much of it I'm in agreement with.
One paragraph that really got me thinking was this:
The "treatment" I was to undertake now, under Jane's tutelage, consisted of understanding that this was the brain I had, it was what it was, and learning how to explain myself to people when the situation called for it and stop expecting myself to function like a neurotypical (NT) person -- that is, someone not at all autistic. Because I'm not like them, and no amount of TRY HARDER HARDER HARDER was going to make me become like them. And of course, learn to appreciate the unique and special ways in which my mind did work, and understand that I was not a failure,...
I think it's good advice for everyone, Asperger's or no Asperger's. The idea that the vast majority of people have "Neurotypical" brains that work exactly the same way, and only a few of us are different, is wrong. Everyone is different, and everyone should try not to spend their lives beating themselves up about it, but instead to focus on ways to accept and celebrate and cope with our differences and the differences of the people around us.
Oh, and thanks to tb
for pointing me to this post.